The Struggles of an Empath

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Being an empath is a superpower. We can frequently sense other people’s emotions often without them having to explain themselves. The people who have made a positive impact on this world are most likely empaths. The ability to be considerate, compassionate and harmonising truly makes us empaths blessings to humanity.

Definition- “an empath is someone who absorbs other people’s emotions because of their high sensitivities”.

But what are the cons of being an empath? In a world with so much pain and suffering, being an empath can be exhausting, to say the least. Not only are we confronted with our personal issues, we constantly feel the pain of other people’s problems.  I love being an empath but recently I’ve noticed how my self sacrificing ways has caused me to neglect my personal needs. My inability to say no out of fear that I will be disappointing others has resulted in feeling burnt out and drained. I’ve exhausted my time and resources to help others when the same was never reciprocated. Wanting to wear a cape and help everyone with their problems is virtually impossible.

To use our empath power in an empowering way, I thought it’d be interesting to explore the negatives of being an empath.

Unhealthy side of being an Empath:

Overthinking – Misinterpreting someone’s mental state. Even though we tend to be highly intuitive, sometimes our perceptions are wrong. Constantly trying to figure people out and imposing on them what we think they are feeling can prove annoying and draining for the person on the receiving end. Sometimes when people they are doing fine, they being honest!

Overanalyzing- Similar to the previous point. Sometimes things are as they seem and don’t need much more analysis. Things like a disagreement with a friend or family member can easily turn into a long-winded battle within ourselves over what went wrong. Overanalyzing can result in us being unnecessarily harsh on ourselves especially when we think we’ve done something wrong. Self forgiveness is harder to practice for empaths who care deeply about people’s feelings.

Boundaries- Not being able to implement healthy boundaries with others. Typically empaths attract emotionally draining people who often pour onto them all their issues. Empaths becomes an emotional blanket for those who are egotistical and self-serving. We find ourselves in unbalanced relationships and tend to feel like we are giving much more than we are receiving.

Saying no- Empaths find it more difficult than the average person to say no because they are highly receptive to the emotions that result in disappointing others. We end up exhausting ourselves trying to please others around us. Saying yes to everyone often leads us to say “no” to our self-care. Our inability to turn things down makes empaths feel unsatisfied and drained.

Evolved Empaths

Learning the possible negatives of being an empath helps us to use our empath traits in an empowering and self-fulfilling way. I am learning that I am not responsible for other people’s moods and I don’t need to absorb their emotions. I have a skill for understanding other people’s emotions and I use that as a tool to create community and have genuine interactions.

5 Affirmations for Empaths:

1.Setting boundaries is a self-care ritual. When I express my boundaries, I am honouring my integrity and standing in the truth of who I am and what I deserve.

2. Saying no allows me to communicate realistic expectations of myself. I trust the universe will guide others and bring them in the path of someone else who is assigned to help them.

3. I allow myself to go into nature to be recharged. I take time out for self-care rituals and make a conscious effort to be present to avoid being overwhelmed by emotions. I make space for relaxation without feeling guilty.

4. I let go of the idea that I can fix everyone and allow others to be. I realise my own limits and let people figure out things themselves. I make peace with the fact that some things can’t be ‘fixed’ and that people need to go through certain things for their own personal growth.

5. I allow positivity to enter my life. I express gratitude daily and celebrate my joyful moments. I release the need to fester onto negative experiences and let go of the need to hold onto pain. I allow myself to experience joy in its entirety because that’s what I deserve.

A Question to you: 

Are you an empath? 

 

I always love to hear your thoughts!

Blessings, Ash xx

 

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Published by Ash

Hello, my name is Ash aka recovering pessimist. Welcome to my blog! This site to all things Wellness & Lifestyle. Join me on my journey as I attempt to untangle my thoughts through writing. Love Ash, x

47 thoughts on “The Struggles of an Empath

      1. This is so me. Thank you for posting. Working on setting boundaries and saying no lately for my own sanity. It’s hard because the worry is there of how others will perceive me but I have to let that go.

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      2. Ohh tell me about it Jenni I can completely relate! I’m working on boundaries too but there’s still this side of me that cares whether I may be upsetting others. But there’s only so much we can do and we can’t live our lives at the expense of our own wellbeing. It will only end up being something we’ll regret. Thank you for stopping by 😊💜

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  1. Quite a lot of that does sound like me, at least when I had better health and was able to do and overdo. Not so much anymore these days, but it’s fascinating looking back now and recognizing it for what it likely was. Food for thought.

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    1. That’s so interesting! What made you change your ways if you don’t mind me asking? That’s super cool that you are able to recognize your growth, I hope I can do the same in years to come. Thank you Val 💜

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      1. It’s kind of a mix of things I guess, getting older, becoming disabled from multiple chronic pain disorders and having to learn to slow down and find new ways to do things. I have more time to see things now and think about how they make me feel.

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      2. Hmm that’s so interesting! Sorry that you experienced chronic pain- I hope it gets better for you. I’m so glad you’re at that stage in your life that you’re able to maintain barriers & not get too emotionally invested. That just inspires me to do the same. Thanks for stopping by 💜

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    1. Yes I agree! So draining but such a blessing. I really believe that it’s a gift. We’ve just got to make sure that we are using it appropriately. We are in this together. Thank you for reading and have a great week ❤

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  2. A friend of mine once told me to stop trying to fix everyone’s problems. To live my own life and being selfish from time to time. This post resonates with me a lot and I’m becoming an evolved empath.

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    1. Yess! Wise advice from your friend. I get told that too but i was felt like it was easier said than do. When we realize that when we are our best versions, we can pour better onto others. it becomes important that we preserve our peace. Thank you for reading this and have a great day 💜

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  3. Thanks for this Ash like you l empathise a lot with people’s situation and l totally agree it’s exhausting but l would hate to not feel other people’s pain. It makes me me. So yes exploring the negatives and keeping check is the only way of copying

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    1. Exactly! It’s who we are and we should be proud of it. But definitely knowing how it can get toxic is very important for our wellbeing. We can’t keep giving from an empty cup. Thank you for stopping by and reading this post ☺️💞

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    1. I agree with you Chris! It’s important to maintain balance by ensuring that we are taking care of ourselves. It’s definitely a blessing. Thank you so much for reading this post 💞☺️

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    1. Hmm interesting! Never thought about that but that’s definitely another side effect of being an Empath. I guess it can cause us to build resentment towards others for not understanding our sensitive nature. Thank you for sharing your thoughts 💞

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    1. Yess it’s so important! The only person we can truly control is ourselves. We can’t fix anyone who doesn’t want it for themselves. So glad you’ve come to that realization. It’s my pleasure 😊💜

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