Side Effects of Overextending Yourself

Do you constantly put the needs of others before your own? Are you often compromising your personal peace to please others?

Too often have I placed the needs of others before my own and ended up exhausting myself in the process. I believe that helping others is extremely important, however I don’t believe it should leave us feeling burdened, fatigued and under appreciated.

Overextending is when you are putting too much of yourself into a situation, leaving you with less energy to pour into meeting your personal needs. Overextending is often done with the expectation that the person receiving the help will be pleased with the amount of effort you are giving. Chronic people pleasers often make it their personal responsibility to sacrifice their own needs, therefore burdening themselves, in an attempt to serve others.

People pleasers often feel obligated to make the life of others easier. However in an attempt to be caring and helpful, they end up neglecting their true desires to live holistically and prioritise their well being.

These are the signs that you are overextending yourself:

  • Feeling burnt out
  • Running out of resources
  • Feeling resentful
  • Potentially feeling used and undervalued
  • Restlessness and fatigue

Tips to Help:

Say no more often- Politely decline when people ask for help and you cannot give it. There’s times where we simply don’t have the means, energy or time to help. You are not obligated to inconvenience yourself to please others. Be clear and decisive. Your no is valid.

Communicate your needs- If you genuinely want to help someone but may not have the capacity to do so right away, then communicate a healthy compromise. Tell them what you can help out with or in what deadline. Make it easier for you.

Surround yourself with people who get it- If you have people who are considerate and respect boundaries, it’s easier to feel comfortable fully expressing your needs and desires. Find people who understand you and won’t consistently put in you a situation you feel uncomfortable with.

Self Reflection- Do you people please because you are scared of disappointing others? Start getting to the root reason why you feel compelled to put others first and your LAST!

Affirmations:

“My needs are valid and important”

“Before I check in on others, I need to first check in on myself”

“People who have my best interest at heart will find it in them to respect when I can’t extend my hand to them, in times when i need me the most”

Questions to you:

Do you overextend yourself often?

How are you looking after your own needs first?

 

I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Much love, Ash xx

Published by Ash

Hello, my name is Ash aka recovering pessimist. Welcome to my blog! This site to all things Wellness & Lifestyle. Join me on my journey as I attempt to untangle my thoughts through writing. Love Ash, x

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