Self Care for Workers w/ @amaraamaryah

Copy of The ugly truth about self love

 

For those of us who spend the majority of our day working, it’s often difficult to make the time to practice self-care. Dealing with work, life’s problems ontop of taking care of our own needs can become a tedious task. That’s why it’s fundamental that we have non-negotiable selfcare acts that we can do throughout the day which are accessible, not time consuming and overall improve our well-being!

Me and the lovely @amaraamaryah reflect on acts of self care we do on a daily basis which truly make a positive difference in our lives.

Before we get into it, let me first introduce you to Amara. Amara Amaryah is a UK poet and blogger. Her blog is a platform for intentional living encouragement, travel moments, books shenis reading and poetry she is writing. Amara also uses her blog to document self-care events in the West-Midlands. She has performed her poetry at Heaux Noire, the Black Lives Matter lunchtime conversation with Patrisse Khan-Cullors and at Out-Spoken Ldn Birmingham Book tour and has most recently been selected as a Hippodrome Young Poet.

Amara:

Morning

i like to start every morning differently. every morning starts in prayer, poetry or gratitude. i try and find fresh ways to start the day with one or two acts of self love. sometimes it is waking up to a mug of my favourite tea and a chapter of scripture. another morning it might be laying out my yoga mat for 5 minutes and mini meditation. the next morning it could be as simple as washing my dishes to have a clear sink when i come home. whatever i do, i do it for myself so i can enter the day knowing that i listened to myself first-thing this morning. as part of being intentional about the thoughts i let in first, i try and walk to work without any headphones and i don’t touch instagram until i have reached my desk.

Midday

a confession: i work in an environment where i’m constantly creating content and it makes me think about how i can create content for my own blog/instagram. sometimes lunchtimes are spent writing/planning/creating using apps on my phone. this is something i’m trying to step away from to give my mind a different thinking space for the lunch hour. i think using lunch to get away from a screen is best. leave your phone in a safe place (if you can) and take your book or just go with conversation. i try and enjoy as analogue a lunch as possible. i’m still learning though! also- i try and get outside of the building for fresh air. i rarely spend my lunch at my desk.

aside from this, i think midday affirmations are super important. reminding yourself of the scripture you read in the morning, the podcast you listened to, the text your mum sent back this morning and just speaking over your affirmations for the week is an important part of being present. *a note on if you dislike your job: i know, i’ve been there. at this point in the day it is easy to dream of going home. i recommend bringing something to your desk that motivates you. a mini vision board, a memory, a quote, anything. having something physical on your desk which reminds you why you’re in the job, what you’re saving for and the fact that it is a temporary position can help you through the day.

Evening

Wind-downs are the best. in my new years blog post i wrote about stepping back from excessive selfcare to get more time to create. i think because i practice acts of self-care during the day,i don’t always need to over-do it in the evening. my evening rituals are always small ways to ensure i can start fresh. i’ve learnt not to over-plan for the evening. your 5-9 doesn’t need to exhaust you. plan your evening and allow an hour for time wasting and doing nothing. and then begin creating/working on the blog or whatever you do. a massive part of my self-care practices include writing. i generally set time aside for Journaling and making sense of my thoughts. i don’t follow any plan yet, i usually brain dump. as a poet, i am on a journey to writing 1000 poems in a year so i try and write something every night (or if not every morning).

the final thing i do is forgive. anything negative that has happened to or because of me, i forgive. i believe that we carry our daily worries into our dreams so i try my best to eradicate the heavy thoughts and make space for good ones.

and then i go again the next day. pushing for new ways to love myself.

Ash:

Quick Side note: “Show me your morning routine and I’ll show you how the rest of your day will pan out”. The way you start your day sets precedent over the rest of your day. The mornings are a perfect way to clear any lingering negative thoughts and to start your day with more clarity and peace. The mornings are an excellent way to check in with yourself. I find the mornings my absolute non-negotiable self care routine.

Morning: A typical self care morning ritual to me looks like waking up, praying or reciting affirmations then doing yoga. I use a yoga app and choose one relating to what my body needs at the time. Then I would watch a motivational video whilst I get ready for work. Once I get into work, one of the first things I do to settle into work is make myself a herbal tea/ coffee. Green tea or any other herbal tea is a must for me because of its healing & cleansing properties.

Afternoon: In my job position you don’t get much time for yourself. Like in many industries the focus is on productivity and getting the most out of your working hours. As a response I make an effort to find time for myself in a few ways; taking intentional breaks away from my computer, spending my breaks reading or watching something fun. I also integrate my passion for blogging into my daily routine by writing / jotting notes down in relations to a blog post when I am inspired.

Evening:

My evening self-care practices differ and are relational to my needs and desires at the present moment. It usually consists of making myself a meal, putting on my fairy lights and burning candles burning. I try to make time to exercise, listening to podcasts and music. I focus my energy in enjoyment so listening to stuff unrelated to blogger or work but based on my other interests like Music. I typically end my night by watching something on Netflix or reading a book when I can.

Follow Amara on her socials:

Insta: amara.amaryah

Twitter: amara_amaryah

Pinterest: amaraamaryah

 

Thank you for reading!

 

How do you take care of yourself on a daily basis?

 

What are your self care tips?

 

Love Ash, xx 

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How to survive a job you hate

Copy of The ugly truth about self love (6)

Do you frequently walk into work each morning and think ughhh not this again? I know that feeling all too well! Waking up to a 9 to 5 job everyday feels like you never left work. One minute you’re making your way home and the next you’re turning off the alarm for work the next morning. If you’re someone like me who’s constantly buzzing with ideas/plans of things they want to achieve in life, going to a job you’re not passionate about is mental torture.

Not a day goes by when I don’t ask myself why am I still here. Dealing with the bitchiness, microaggressions and managers breathing down my neck on a day to day basis is emotionally draining. In an ideal world I would never work a 9-5 job and just live my life pursuing all the things I enjoy. However like many others, I depend on my job to pay my bills. I don’t come from a privileged background with an abundance of savings to fall back on. The option to just quit and pursue my goals is not realistic at this present moment. Coming from a low-income/poor background does not afford you the same options as someone with a safety net who can leave their job without any repercussions.

I think society undermines the emotional and physical toll it can have on people who are in a job they don’t enjoy. Within capitalist society, it’s not about whether you like your job, but working as a matter of survival. This harsh reality requires us to find coping mechanisms to help preserve our well-being. Over the past year I have been finding new ways to cope on a day to day basis until I am finally able to make that leap to pursue my career goals. These methods have helped me and I want to share them with you.

Tips to help you survive your job:

1. Have a passion outside of work- Whether it’s reading, community work or dance classes, indulging in a hobby outside of work will bring joy and a sense of fulfilment into your life. Having a hobby can keep you motivated to continue your day knowing that you have something to look forward to afterwards. If you’re in the process of setting up a business you’re passionate about, the dislike you have for your job should act as a source of motivation to spend a little time each day working on that said idea and putting it into fruition.

2. Change your perspective of your job- I was watching a Lisa Nicols video (check her out if you haven’t already) on Youtube and she said something that had a profound impact on me. She said “see your job as your investor”. Once I heard this I stopped thinking of my job as a burden but as something that was funding my goals. When you start to feel low about your job, say to yourself I’m going to work for my ‘investor’. If you picture your job as someone who’s funding your dreams then it’ll make you feel more motivated to go into work.

3. Set yourself a realistic time period for you to leave your job (if you want to quit)- If you hate your job so much that you want to leave, set yourself a realistic and attainable deadline of when you want to leave your job. Take into consideration that your financial situation might fluctuate and any other external factors that might inhibit you from quitting i.e. whether you’ve accumulated enough experience or how long it’ll take you to find another job. I made the mistake previously of over anticipating when I could leave, only to be disappointed when certain financial burdens got in the way. Set yourself a target and focus your mind each day to preparing yourself to meet your goal.

4. Take breaks at work when you get frustrated- If you’re at work and you find yourself feeling agitated about your job, take a few minutes away to recollect your thoughts. Take an extra few minutes away from your computer screen or take a longer toilet break (do whatever doesn’t get you caught out lol). If you’re someone like me who gets easily annoyed this is important. By taking some time out, it gives you an opportunity to remind yourself of your intentions and why you’re at your job in the first place.

5. Set yourself mini goals- Dedicate some time to write down what you want to achieve every week. It’s usually recommended that you write down a few mini goals to achieve each day instead of a lengthy list. Writing down your goals and achieving them will make you feel more fulfilled knowing you’re spending time nurturing your life outside of work.

And lastly. You might dislike your job but i’m sure you can find some good aspects of it too. Your job is probably teaching you excellent transferable skills that can be used for your next job/career choice. That annoying manager is teaching you vital skills about leadership. Your retail job is teaching you how to interact with customers which is vital for having your own business. Your salary is funding those nights out with your friends and start the up money to pursue your dreams. Take advantage of the experiences that your job is offering you. The positives and negatives all make for great live lessons. And remember, you don’t have to be stuck in this job forever!

Are you currently in a job you dislike?

What are the struggles you face on a daily basis? And how do you cope, if at all?
I hope i’m not by myself in this struggle haha.